Why I said "Yes" to the Cake Topper Dress

One of the things that I haven't talked about much is my wedding. And it's not because I am trying to keep it private or hidden from you all, it's just it wasn't some lavish affair that we are all used to seeing on Pinterest. We had an intimate wedding with only our family and few friends present. Therefore, there was no "obligatory" fanfare. So, thought I would just gloss over it and move on to talking about other things like fashion. But surprisingly, I got (and still get) a lot question about it. So, I decided to write my wedding day story. But as I was writing it, I realized that I wasn't addressing things that everyone is usually interested in and that is how to budget a wedding. So, I thought, never mind the story, just do a "How to" post with some personal facts intermixed throughout. Well, that didn't work either. The post was turning out huge, and I didn't even start talking about the personal stuff. So, never mind that too. Now I had two half finished posts without a clear picture on how to finish em. And to add to it, I found another unfinished post that I started writing in December where I talked about my dress.

So, what I will do, is write a series of posts that are dedicated to my wedding and everything wedding related, and today, I will start from talking about my "Cake Topper Dress".



Ok, my dress wasn't a cake topper dress per say. But It was 2 times bigger than the dress I went in to buy. I had a clear picture of the dress that I wanted when I started my wedding dress journey...




All I ever wanted was the Vera Wang Dress (this is the dress), but that wasn't going to happen because... You can't get a designer (or any kind of specialty dress) in 1 1/2 months. I learned it the hard way. I first tried ordering my dress from a bridal boutique, but the soonest they could get a dress to me was four to five months (and that's if expedited). So, I had to go with the second best thing, and that was DB (obviously, no luck on getting Vera there as well).


And although, we got to play around in the isles and browse through the dresses, I called in advance and asked my assistant to pull me all the dresses that she thought I could get in two months. I also told her that I don't want any lace. I know that lace is all in range on pinterest and in wedding magazines right now, but I find it dated and "old time-y". Both my mom and my maid of honor agreed that all the lace dresses that sales assistant attempted to suggest looked like dirty grandma's curtains and that I shouldn't even try them on.
By the way, I told my bridesmaid they could pick whatever dresses they wanted as long as they are not lace. But do you think anyone listened to me? Noooo...



To say that my choices were limited would be an understatement of the century... At the same time, the choices weren't as limited as the sales assistant made it out on the phone. But, anything couture was out of the question. Actually, anything remotely fancy was out of the question. I wasn't planing on going Marchesa Fall on my family, but I did want something tight, something over the top with a lot of bare shoulders... But I changed my mind in the middle of trying on the dresses...



As I was trying on different variations on the mermaid and trumpet dresses, I realized that I already have some of these dresses in my closet. Of course, none of the gowns that I own are white or have trains, but the resemblance was undeniable. So to my mom's dismay, I told my assistant to take away all the dresses we had selected and bring something "puffy", because I was going to look like a princess on my wedding day.


Growing up I was obsessed with anything princessy, but I never got to be one (maybe one day I'll tell you why). So, my wedding was the only chance i had left to "princess it out". I started from the less "puffy" to outrageously huge and back. At the end, I said "Yes" to the "iconic" wedding dress: big skirt/sweetheart neckline. To all of you who are thinking on going "Big" on your wedding day, be very careful. Ball gown styles are very notorious for adding extra pounds in the pictures. So, make sure not to over-do on the fabric especially around your waist.


So, the only advice I can give any of you ladies who are trying to have a "shotgun wedding"and still walk down the isle in a couture dress... Buy your dress in advance... (I am still beating myself over not getting it last year.) That said, lets not get ahead of ourselves. If you've been dating for about a year (or so) and you already wedding dress shopping, Stop right here... Cuz' girl, you'll just going to creep you partner out and of he/she will drive into a sunset alone, while you'll be left crying on top of your dress. But if you've been together for  a looong time (8 1/2 years for me), you know that ring  is coming... So, get on that dresses shopping. Another option is to buy a second had dress. If you don't have a problem with wearing a pre-owned cloths, it would defiantly be a more economical and smart way of getting the dress you want and in time.